Pride vs. Humility

Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16‬:‭18‬ ‭‬‬

Depending on the context of your painful experience, your instinct may be to push back against those offering help. But you can’t win the war against trauma on your own.

The enemy is too strong and too clever. The only hope you have is to let humility lead you to healing. It seems contrary to reason, but strength is found in acknowledging our weaknesses.

Paul, an early Christian leader, knew this well. He experienced all kinds of hardship and trauma. He was beaten, stoned, and shipwrecked, all while being on the most wanted lists of the Gentiles and the Jews at the same time!

He was tough. No one would challenge that. Yet he didn’t boast about his strength and fortitude but rather about his weakness.

In 2 Corinthians 12:9–10, Paul writes:

But God said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may  rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Despite all he had been through, Paul recognized that he only stood a fighting chance if he let his guard down.

Humility invites others to help us. Pride pushes them away. Humility permits God to enter into our pain. Pride says, “I can do it alone.” Humility listens to wise counsel. Pride rejects the advice of others. Humility leads to healing. Pride leads to destruction (Proverbs 16:18).

The humility required to heal from trauma is a risks/rewards scenario.

You have to be willing to put yourself in God’s hands—to entrust Him with your story—in order to build the loving relationships and community you’ll need to heal.

It’s not easy, and it’s the total opposite of what your brain may tell you to do, but you can’t skip this step. Openness and vulnerability are what your heart needs in order to heal.